SILENT TREATMENT AS A HIFZH AL-LISAN-BASED COPING STRATEGY FOR SAKINAH FAMILY COMMUNICATION
Keywords:
Communication,, Coping Strategy, Hifzh al-Lisan, Sakinah Family, Silent TreatmentAbstract
This study aims to reconstruct silent treatment as a positive and Islamic coping strategy based on the value of Hifzh al-Lisan (guarding speech) in the context of family communication to realize a sakinah family. This research uses a qualitative method through a systematic literature review with a thematic analysis approach based on the Braun & Clarke (2006) model. Seventeen selected scientific articles were analyzed after going through a systematic process of identification, screening, and eligibility assessment. The analysis revealed five main themes forming the conceptual framework: 1) Silence as a self and emotion regulation strategy; 2) Spiritual and value foundation (Hifzh al-Lisan, patience); 3) The importance of meta-communication and agreement; 4) Clear boundaries between a strategy and a manipulative weapon; and 5) Positive relational and spiritual outcomes (sakinah family, qalbun salim). Silent treatment can be reconstructed as an adaptive and Islamic coping strategy when grounded in Hifzh al-Lisan, characterized by good intention, temporariness, and prior communication. This strategy serves as a protective mechanism for maintaining relationship integrity and spiritual health. : This research is crucial to provide a healthy, worship-valued alternative perspective for managing family conflict and to offer an integrative framework combining psychology and Islam for family counselling.
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